In this context, I think it would be defined as using the platform with the purpose of pursuing a romantic encounter. Some examples that might make another person uncomfortable, but are not necessarily going to lead to a “hook up” could be…
- Compliments on appearance/physical features
- Suggesting a romantic activity (i.e., dancing, stargazing, being alone in an isolated place, watching a movie alone at home/in a bedroom)
- Offering to pay for the other person
- Bringing a gift
- Being too close to the person, (i.e., in their personal space)
- Making a physical move on the other person
Before you laugh, these are all real examples of things that have happened to me with hosts I stayed with or surfers I met at events/hangouts. I’ve only one time been hit on by a surfer, and the thing he did was:
- Make negative comments about my partner
- Suggest he was better than my partner
- Try to suggest we share a sleeping surface
I say these things “might” make someone uncomfortable because there are plenty of people who would like these things probably, and I respect that. It would also make me happy if I was interested in the other person.
The issue, however, is that by making it clear that the platform is not for dating, the point we would make is that no one should expect a positive response to this behavior from the community at large, regardless of what the two people actually did. If that makes sense.