I think Trenton said it perfectly. I think whatever message you put up doesn’t need to be written as gendered, because people should respect everyone no matter what their gender and the rules should ofcourse be applied to everyone.
To say this problem exists for everyone… mm, not really, the problem does not exist for men the same as it does for women. For example, the experiences described by the guy in the other thread were by no means acceptable, but I do not think I know many females, including myself who has not gone through what he described (and much worse) many times throughout their lives, not just once as an isolated incident. In fact, I don’t think I would even think to report/call an emergency guy for what he described as I highly doubt I would be taken seriously, and probably be told it is just what people do if you sleep in the same bed as them (Actually almost every female I have ever met on couchsurfing has had this happen to them at some point with a host, even when not sleeping in the same bed).
To now bring the focus on men, or to imply the problem is equal, is completely minimising the problem of women, and i believe is unnecessary as they are not experiencing something unique, but rather a (much) smaller extent of what women are. Also like Trenton mentioned, men generally do not have the problem of worrying about this stuff in their day to day lives and when travelling. It is hurtful in the long run to talk about it like it’s an equal problem because then it will be addressed from the perspective of men (as they will assume the problem is the same for women), and women’s problems will continue to go unaddressed.
It should be acknowledged that it can happen to anyone and does happen to men and their experiences should absolutely not be ignored, but to redirect the discussion from women is akin to the black lives matter movement and people saying No! All lives matter! White people are killed by police too! … Saying black lives matter doesn’t mean we are suddenly fine with white people being killed by police etc.
If people have a problem with this discussion having a general focus on women I think they need to be called out by moderators. Or say all this at the start of the thread and flag people for refusing to cooperate now they’ve been pre-educated (cos lets be real, it does come from sexism). I think you can bring up male experiences without trying to make out that the problem is overall the same/try and redirect the discussion about women, which is not what was happening in the other thread.