Many are 20 years younger than me and I don’t need frugal youngsters to cook me pasta and packet soups.
you know, the last one who cooked me top ramen actually had an interesting tip- they put peanut butter in it. Seemed gross at first but it was like a very simple pad thai and turned out really good.
But the issue for me is in the rudeness. I’ve hosted in popular cities, with 10+ requests a week, and often got a one-liners “Hi, can I stay?”.
That sucks- hopefully they are just young people who haven’t figured it out yet. This would be too much with 10+ a week, but for the few rude ones I’ve gotten I sent them a message back saying so, one actually ended up being a great guest.
The safety part of it makes a lot of sense, you can learn a lot from a few messages.
& I like the last idea though don’t know about having so many filters.
That’s sweet that you have gotten to experience a bit of it all. Which setting has been your favorite, (if you can pick)?
When living really off I practically hosted everyone who wanted to come by and it was just nice to have a change of energy. When living by myself, I also hosted because I felt it made my house more welcoming in general
For sure. I think there is some sort of cosmic value that a place can have- when you share a place with people, allowing for their paths to be positively impacted, the place is more valuable to the world. So many properties have beautiful views and nice big houses and cost a lot, but nobody gets to experience it besides the owner. It seems like a waste.
Wow really good post, feels like you’ve pulled ideas straight out of my head but explained them better than I could.
I have space to host, and I deeply believe that any extra space should be shared. An empty room, couch, or even floorspace is a terrible thing to have in my home when there are so many people looking for shelter. … Those of us who can afford these things have a moral obligation to share with those who can’t pay or otherwise don’t want to for understandable reasons.
Similar to Stijn was saying above & not something I’ve seen talked about much yet in the hospex community- maybe people are trying not to scare away new potential hosts by posting that in public-facing forums lol. It’s more “You can have a lot of fun hosting people” instead of “You should do this because you live on stolen land and need to try and right the wrongs of capitalism”.
I want to set an example for others. People err on the side of not trusting others, but every time i introduce my guests to my friends/family, I hope it creates a ripple effect demonstrating that people are inherently good.
That rocks. In my experience people respond very well to being trusted.
People in the US are really preoccupied with being robbed, even in areas with basically no crime. I’ve had neighbors and family tell me I should put up “no trespassing” signs, very common out here in Montana, I hate the idea. The reasoning being “it’s just a sign, it gives you legal protection” etc.
But with all the fences and “no trespassing” signs we’ve created a community where that’s the norm, everywhere you look is something telling you “you can’t be here” & creating this expectation that you cannot go anywhere that isn’t legally outlined for you to go.
The last part is very nice to read btw.