Those are all valid points. My reply referred only to the title of the topic “inappropriate behavior”. So: I’m not saying those filters are intrinsecly bad, or shouldn’t exist, what I am saying they should be other tools to avoid inappropriate behavior, not those.
Some ideas were proposed in several discussions, minimum amount of words for a first message, an alternative inbox for messages from people you had no previous contact where you can accept or decline (maybe with the option of report) I did like that CS had, among the report reasons “dating”, I think it’s a strong declaration to say dating is a reason to be reported. But it wasn’t well implemented, it was hidden in a menu and most people were not aware. I proposed a simple button with a flag and the word dating, to make a clear statement that that’s not appropriate behavior.
Also, regarding hang outs, I saw this app with a very cool concept in this matter: it links people in groups of 3. We all know hangouts is where lots of this people that want a date lure, so it maybe we could incorporate this somehow to hangouts, and make the minimum number of people to start a hangout 3 instead of 2, to make clear that it’s not a date, it’s a group meeting from the go. I know this could be counterproductive in small places or for not so popular activities, maybe this could be override by the user on demand.
Let’s say I go into hangouts, see someone proposing an activity I’m interested on, I send the request, she/he/it accepts, the hangout forms and shows in the list of available hangouts for people to join, but inside the chat it shows a message saying “waiting for the 3 person to join” and participants cannot start chatting until someone else joins. Maybe this last bit could have the option of “start chat anyway” that will allow to start chatting only if both parties click on it, so for not so popular places or activities the hangout between 2 can happen anyways but only if both agree on that. (Sorry for the length, it’s a complex mechanism and I wanted to be clear)
Also about hangouts: lower points or give some “cool off period” to people that get declined regularly, or that leaves hangouts regularly. I’m bringing this up because of guys that requests and start chatting but leave the moment you accept another guy, without even saying bye. There maybe reasons to leave sometimes, but it this is a repeated Modus operandi there should be some warning for misuse.
Also: a visible flag for dating inside the hangout chat window.
Also: encouraging references. Not sure about how to implement this, but if there were more people using the reference system (whether a written reference or a private multiple choice) it would be easier to make evident who is misusing the platform. If we somehow make people used to review every person they interact with, and not only the ones they had a great time with, it would be cristal clear.
Sorry for the long post, it’s all that comes to mind right now, hope it helps